Inappropriate Conversations

America functions with a careful balance on a couple of ideas. One is majority rule. The other is checks/balances on power. Controls are in place specifically to prevent oppression of minority groups.  Always get suspicious when you hear someone complain about "the will of the majority" being thwarted. Does such a majority know what it's like to be on the other side?  I don't believe we've advanced as far in race relations as some Americans might suggest. Different Drummer: Carlton Douglas Ridenhour

My father has been gone for close to two decades now. I miss him more than I ever have. I'm still not yet older than he was when he died, and I sense that his life experience could inform me greatly today.  Some sociologists believe that the absence of dads is a big factor in the problems we are facing. There may be many things that our children, collectively, are not hearing from fathers. Not just hard words, either; the list surely includes laughter. Different Drummer: Jacques Clouseau

When it comes to drugs and drug policies, we'd better say much more than just "no."  In many ways, the "just say no" campaign invested its power in the simplicity of ignorance. After all, if you merely abstain then you never have to understand what you are abstaining from. Or do you?  Education is crucial because knowledge is the only way to avoid being duped ... or doped. Different Drummer: Steven D. Levitt

Knowledge is power, and it is very difficult to resist temptations that come out of nowhere. Being prepared and understanding consequences are crucial ways of making good choices when other options are very tempting.  When I was growing up, 10 years old, education was the approach my parents and my church used for sexuality. And it wasn't "abstinence only" either.  I openly wonder whether my Protestant denomination would handle sex education the same way today, or at all. Different Drummer: Alex Comfort

Equality in marriage is a fairly new idea, and I wonder if our society takes for granted something that we've only begun to experience. In the past, a wife was legally regarded as a possession. At times, marriage has been viewed as a political tool or even an economic exchange, referring to the dowry concept.  The notion of Companionship Marriage is unique in granting marriage a value all its own, where the partnership is truly between spouses rather than governments or families.  In a seemingly unrelated matter, have a blessed Memorial Day, Americans! Different Drummer: Paul of Tarsus

Pentecost may be the most important celebration in the Christian calendar for me. It is also horribly under-regarded. Christianity recognizes Trinity: God interacting with creation in three primary and personal ways. One of those is through creation itself. Christ is another. What about the third?  When Christians talk about "God changing hearts and lives" they are referring to the Holy Spirit.  I've heard some people resist the notion that such a manifestation of deity could be called a person, but this is precisely how a relationship with God actually becomes personal. Different Drummer: The Holy Spirit

Here's an Inappropriate Conversation about how to have an inappropriate conversation.  Things only grow when you shine your light on them.  Fair-skinned as my family is, though, how do I let the sun shine in without getting burned?  Even more important, I need to make sure the storyteller doesn't get in the way of the stories I need to tell. Different Drummer: Allison Downing http://www.simplysyndicated.com/